Comments on: How to Help a Homebody http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 17:33:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Halloween 2009 Recap http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5580 Halloween 2009 Recap Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:31:40 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5580 [...] had fun picking pumpkins except Bobo.  He’s a homebody and all he wanted to do was go home.  His big brother had to pick his pumpkin for him and put it [...] [...] had fun picking pumpkins except Bobo.  He’s a homebody and all he wanted to do was go home.  His big brother had to pick his pumpkin for him and put it [...]

]]> By: Kitty - Coupon Divas http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5579 Kitty - Coupon Divas Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:04:21 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5579 I think I would get him signed up for some activities outside of the house. Not too many, you don't want to overwhelm him. Maybe even separately from his brother so he has to interact with others. It will be good for him :) I think I would get him signed up for some activities outside of the house. Not too many, you don’t want to overwhelm him. Maybe even separately from his brother so he has to interact with others.

It will be good for him :)

]]> By: Kasey http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5578 Kasey Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:57:32 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5578 My daughter is almost the same way. She will go places, the store, park, etc... but doesn't like small places with lots of people and will melt down under the pressure. Even in her own home. If we have visitors and they include children, when they get too close to her she freaks. Even at the park she gets frozen with panic and screams for me. I have to come get her from where ever she is. She has also been home with me for a long time. She started preschool last week and is doing OK. She LOVES to go, but panics when it is time for me to leave. "But, mom there are kids there!" She will normally calm down and get comfortable after a while, but it take a good half hour or so. I feel so bad for her because I know that she wants to have fun and play. I agree that getting involved is the best thing for your son. Maybe the library is the best place to start. Maybe just the two of you for some stories and then work up to story time on your lap. Then maybe a mommy and me music class or family fun class somewhere. Maybe a YMCA near you? Good luck and keep us posted!!! My daughter is almost the same way. She will go places, the store, park, etc… but doesn’t like small places with lots of people and will melt down under the pressure. Even in her own home. If we have visitors and they include children, when they get too close to her she freaks. Even at the park she gets frozen with panic and screams for me. I have to come get her from where ever she is. She has also been home with me for a long time. She started preschool last week and is doing OK. She LOVES to go, but panics when it is time for me to leave. “But, mom there are kids there!”
She will normally calm down and get comfortable after a while, but it take a good half hour or so. I feel so bad for her because I know that she wants to have fun and play.
I agree that getting involved is the best thing for your son. Maybe the library is the best place to start. Maybe just the two of you for some stories and then work up to story time on your lap. Then maybe a mommy and me music class or family fun class somewhere. Maybe a YMCA near you?
Good luck and keep us posted!!!

]]> By: Badger Momma http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5577 Badger Momma Fri, 04 Sep 2009 17:47:43 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5577 Yeah... I'm not sure what else to suggest. The more I think on it the more I'm guessing it might be an anxiety thing. He might be just THAT much more comfortable in his own house, his own surroundings, with his own things. Outside is full of the unknown and the unexpected. He might have sensory overload with lot of things and/or people around too. Let me know what the pedi says. You've piqued my interest. :) Just remember that whatever it is - whether normal or needing a little bit of help. In the long run, he'll be fine. :) Yeah… I’m not sure what else to suggest. The more I think on it the more I’m guessing it might be an anxiety thing. He might be just THAT much more comfortable in his own house, his own surroundings, with his own things. Outside is full of the unknown and the unexpected. He might have sensory overload with lot of things and/or people around too.

Let me know what the pedi says. You’ve piqued my interest. :)

Just remember that whatever it is – whether normal or needing a little bit of help. In the long run, he’ll be fine. :)

]]> By: mommy23monkeys http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5576 mommy23monkeys Fri, 04 Sep 2009 17:39:32 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5576 Thank you SO much for sharing this with me! I appreciate it. He's not generally a complainer, but he has become increasingly more whiny about things. I don't know if it's related. I do just want to pinpoint if it's a quirk or a problem. I don't want to force him out and traumatize him but I also don't want to let it get worse by leaving him home all the time. KWIM? I think next week I will be calling his doctor just so I can make him aware and see if he has any thoughts. Thanks! Thank you SO much for sharing this with me! I appreciate it.

He’s not generally a complainer, but he has become increasingly more whiny about things. I don’t know if it’s related.

I do just want to pinpoint if it’s a quirk or a problem. I don’t want to force him out and traumatize him but I also don’t want to let it get worse by leaving him home all the time. KWIM?

I think next week I will be calling his doctor just so I can make him aware and see if he has any thoughts.

Thanks!

]]> By: Badger Momma http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5575 Badger Momma Fri, 04 Sep 2009 17:20:09 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5575 I was one of those kids. I wasn't crazy about leaving the house. I put on a good show but I wasn't really happy going out and about and interacting with others. I felt alone at parties - even if they were my own birthday parties with my friends. However, it was not debilitating for me. I still was able to function well. I think you really need to pin down whether it's a quirk or something that is really causing him to not be able to function at all. Is he a complainer in general? If he is, then maybe he just wants to complain about not being a home. If he's not, then maybe it's a high level of anxiety about the unknown. 1st suggestion is one you're already doing. Schedule things in advance as much as possible and let him know about them. Put a calendar down at his level on the wall or fridge and point out the date to him so that he can keep tabs on it. If he can't read, then draw pictures. Or let him draw a picture on the date himself so that he can recognize it better. *Example- I would freak when I was suddenly told that I had to go to a doctor's appointment. I wouldn't freak if I knew about it a week or so in advance.* My 2nd suggestion, is speaking with his pediatrician. He or she might have have an idea about what's going on. Every kid is different. And this leads into suggestion #3. My 3rd suggestion, and it might not be one you like, is a low dose antidepressant. I started taking one a year or so ago. At first I didn't think it was doing anything for me. I didn't feel any different. Then I sat back and realized that it was Christmas time and I didn't feel my normal high level of anxiety. It was still there. But the meds were definitely taking the edge off. THAT was noticable to me. Anyhow, for what it's worth, your son is probably a normal kid with a bit of quirkiness mixed in. Quirkiness makes us unique and interesting. We're all quirky here. And by the way? I'm still introverted. :) I was one of those kids. I wasn’t crazy about leaving the house. I put on a good show but I wasn’t really happy going out and about and interacting with others. I felt alone at parties – even if they were my own birthday parties with my friends. However, it was not debilitating for me. I still was able to function well.

I think you really need to pin down whether it’s a quirk or something that is really causing him to not be able to function at all. Is he a complainer in general? If he is, then maybe he just wants to complain about not being a home. If he’s not, then maybe it’s a high level of anxiety about the unknown.

1st suggestion is one you’re already doing. Schedule things in advance as much as possible and let him know about them. Put a calendar down at his level on the wall or fridge and point out the date to him so that he can keep tabs on it. If he can’t read, then draw pictures. Or let him draw a picture on the date himself so that he can recognize it better. *Example- I would freak when I was suddenly told that I had to go to a doctor’s appointment. I wouldn’t freak if I knew about it a week or so in advance.*

My 2nd suggestion, is speaking with his pediatrician. He or she might have have an idea about what’s going on. Every kid is different. And this leads into suggestion #3.

My 3rd suggestion, and it might not be one you like, is a low dose antidepressant. I started taking one a year or so ago. At first I didn’t think it was doing anything for me. I didn’t feel any different. Then I sat back and realized that it was Christmas time and I didn’t feel my normal high level of anxiety. It was still there. But the meds were definitely taking the edge off. THAT was noticable to me.

Anyhow, for what it’s worth, your son is probably a normal kid with a bit of quirkiness mixed in. Quirkiness makes us unique and interesting. We’re all quirky here.

And by the way? I’m still introverted. :)

]]> By: mommy23monkeys http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5574 mommy23monkeys Fri, 04 Sep 2009 00:35:20 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5574 Thanks Laurie. I guess I'm off to call the ped! Thanks Laurie.

I guess I’m off to call the ped!

]]> By: Laurie http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5573 Laurie Thu, 03 Sep 2009 21:50:14 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5573 I would definitely talk to his pediatrician about this, like others mentioned, just in case there may be something else. Maybe try and schedule stuff and remind him days in advance to get him excited about going. Something geared around his interest. I would definitely talk to his pediatrician about this, like others mentioned, just in case there may be something else. Maybe try and schedule stuff and remind him days in advance to get him excited about going. Something geared around his interest.

]]> By: mommy23monkeys http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5572 mommy23monkeys Thu, 03 Sep 2009 21:44:12 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5572 Yes. I can't surprise him with anything...but that's typical of most toddlers so I never really thought about it. I do try to do a lot of notices for most things. Yes. I can’t surprise him with anything…but that’s typical of most toddlers so I never really thought about it. I do try to do a lot of notices for most things.

]]> By: mommy23monkeys http://ohrheally.com/2009/09/03/how-to-help-a-homebody/#comment-5571 mommy23monkeys Thu, 03 Sep 2009 21:42:54 +0000 http://mommy23monkeys.com/?p=2972#comment-5571 OH. I forgot about library story time. It wasn't doable before...but might work now. Thanks for that. OH. I forgot about library story time. It wasn’t doable before…but might work now. Thanks for that.

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