But WHY does it have to be a debate at all?
Did you watch Dr. Phil today? I don’t usually watch him…too busy watching Spongebob or Wow Wow Wubzy. But I tuned in today because a couple of well known bloggers were going to be facing off on the Stay at Home VS. Working Mom debate. You can read up on what went down here on Dr. Phil’s blog.
Basically, they separated mom’s to two sides of the studio: Stay-at-home mom’s on one side, headed up by the ever controversial Jessica Gottlieb, and the working moms were on the other with their champion Heather Armstrong.
As a SAHM, I am embarrassed that Jessica Gottlieb was on “my” side!
The ignorant statements that came out of her mouth were astounding. Although, I have to say that I wasn’t really shocked. She say’s some pretty hateful stuff on a daily basis though her blog and twitter. She said stuff like (paraphrasing here):
- Outsourcing your children (to daycare/nannies) is no better than outsourcing sex with your husband to someone else.
- Judging others is her God given right.
- If you’re not going to stay home and raise your children than you shouldn’t have them at all.
It went on and on.
Like I said – embarrassing.
Now, I’m not saying that Jessica isn’t entitled to her opinion…because she absolutely is. But the way she came off as superior and sanctimonious (a Dr. Phil producers description) was a real put off.
Even as a SAHM, I found myself agreeing with Dooce (Heather Armstrong). She said that as moms, we should come together and be supportive, not tear each other down.
Amen.
What I do as a SAHM is not any better than what you do as a working mom. We are ALL moms first. Why do we have to judge? WHO CARES!? What’s right for me may not work for you and that’s OKAY.
Jessica needs to come down off her high horse and realize that judgment is reserved for God himself, not a SAHM mommy blogger with too much time on her hands.
It all made me sick she is very hypocritical
“* Outsourcing your children (to daycare/nannies) is no better than outsourcing sex with your husband to someone else.”
Wouldn’t sending them to public schools be out sourcing them? And if I was her husband I would outsource myself for sex er I didn’t say that.
“* Judging others is her God given right.”I can not believe she used God’s name – Thou shalt not Judge.
” * If you’re not going to stay home and raise your children than you shouldn’t have them at all.” She just proved to America how stupid she is.
She did say something on her blog about being Jewish and not reading the bible. So I guess Jewish people are allowed to be judgmental? I never knew that…
*eye roll*
Uh, no. The Jews’ “bible” is the Old Testament and the Talmud. And they are not supposed to be judgmental. They leave that to God. (My 3 BFF’s growing up were Orthodox Jews. I learned a lot from them)
No, Jessica is just your run of the mill whack job.
This is waiting for me on my DVR, I’m cringing already. Why can’t we all just make the decisions that are right for our own families and stop worrying about everyone else?
I agree!
She totally made me cringe, too.
Doesn’t the Bible say “Judge not lest ye be judged”?
Yeah, I thought so.
Jessica is a hateful, bitter woman. I feel sorry for her kids and husband. Doesn’t she know that people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones?
I am embarrassed to have her in the SAHM category as well. Not all of us are like that. MOST of us are tolerant and understanding. Isn’t that what you learn to be as an adult? Tolerant? Understanding? FORGIVING? Isn’t that what we want our children to learn to be when they grow up?
The superior, sanctimonious attitudes of some human beings in this world both amazes and disgusts me.
I think you covered it all!
well said.
Being a parent is a hard job, esp if you want to do it right!
And it sounds like this J person doesn’t care about doing it right… just being able to stay at home & be the queen ! LOL
Wow , I seriously don’t know what to say to her thoughts. She seriously needs to wake the F up. I don’t know how anyone thinks they have the right to judge other people! We all do what we need to do for our families doesn’t make one of us better then the other !
Normally, I never get the to watch daytime TV either, thanks to Nick Jr. you know the TV channel…my kid is Austin.
Wowwowwubzy that was some show.
Jessica just rubbed me the wrong way. I wonder what she would think of me? My medically fragile 2 year old son has 12 hours of nursing care a day so I can sleep or run errands. Should I stay up 24/7 so that I am not “outsourcing” my job to someone medically trained? Bring on the coffee!
Wow, I shouldn’t say anything because I didn’t see the show. But she says you shouldn’t have kids if you are not going to stay home and raise them.
There are plenty of stay at home moms that should not have kids, I see examples of this everyday when I am out running my errands without my kids, who have been outsourced to the public school system. LOL!
How lame!
I haven’t seen it yet, as I am a working mom. But I will make a point to watch it!
You and Dooce hit the nail on the head–why bicker about it and form opposing sides over something that doesn’t matter? Someone needs to tell her like I tell my daughter: “Mind yer business, not anyone else’s.”